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Navigating Anxiety, Perfectionism & Overthinking
Why Healing Doesn’t Feel Like an “Overnight Success”
Whether it’s personal development or professional success, most of us have internalized the idea that change should be fast. That there should be a clear turning point. A breakthrough moment. Something big and shiny that says:
“You’ve made it.”
But that’s not how healing — especially the kind that happens in your nervous system — actually works.
The reality is quieter. Slower. Often invisible.
It looks like:
Saying “no” and not spiraling about it later
Taking a breath before jumping in to fix or help
Not overexplaining yourself in every email or text
Feeling your shoulders relax without even noticing they were tense
These are the small shifts that signal real progress. But they don’t usually come with fanfare.
What If Self-Care Looked Like Less?
“You can’t pour from an empty cup.” We’ve all heard it. But most of us interpret it as: Refill as fast as you can so you can get back to pouring.
We’re still centering productivity, even in our rest.
The truth is, many people (especially caretakers, helpers, high achievers) have internalized the idea that worth is tied to usefulness. So even something like lunch becomes a task—another item to optimize or multitask through.
But what if self-care wasn’t about doing more for yourself… but about doing less?
Perfectionism: Silencing Our Inner Critic
Ever find yourself stuck in the endless cycle of trying to be perfect? Trust me, I’ve been there. Perfectionism can be a tough nut to crack, especially when that inner critic keeps telling us we’re never good enough. But guess what? It doesn’t have to be this way. Let’s chat about how we can silence that inner critic and embrace the idea of being “good enough.”
How to Avoid the Comparison Trap
Comparison—it's a trap many of us fall into without even realizing it. Whether it's scrolling through social media, sizing up our colleagues at work, or comparing our achievements to those of friends and family, the urge to measure ourselves against others is a common human experience. But why do we do it, and what toll does it take on our mental health, particularly our anxiety?
What is Perfectionism?
It all begins with an idea.